REAL TALK

DEPRESSION AND SUICIDE;

It is said that labor pain is worst of all. You can feel and understand it only when you have been through it.

In the same way you cannot feel and understand what is going on in the mind of a person unless you are in his shoes. You are more like an audience watching the play.

Lets take mental depression here to be a weather condition. Where the areas have low pressure succumb to cyclone or depression.

How many of you feel very good and at the same time very low during rainy season? I bet every alternate can feel that low pressure building up. The amount of activity decreases, there is increase in desire to do nothing because of less sun.

When the weather depression is real so is mental depression.

What leads you to depression?

It is where you develop low pressure due to chemical imbalances in your brain. Hence, in brain there is decrease in neurotransmitters which in turn affects our mood. Our nerves in brain don't touch each other they just pass the messages through synapses from one to another. So they need right amount of message passing in between them. If there is imbalance in the message then probably depressive illness arises.

In layman's language, imbalance can be due to any reason, familial pressure, relationship status, financial burden, stressful life events or genetic vulnerability, early losses and trauma etc.

Researches somehow lately explains about the genetic traits followed into the offspring's too.

Does depression leads to suicide?

Emotions and even physical pain can become unbearable. They don’t want to die, but it’s the only way they feel their pain will end. It is a truly irrational choice. Suffering from depression is involuntary, just like cancer or diabetes, but it is a treatable illness that can be managed.

In India the deaths due to suicide out of 10.5 per 100,000 are most likely to be from stress related issues from the students, peer pressures, or majorly love failures of age group between 15-45 years.

The first recorded person to commit suicide was Empedocles. One of his beliefs was that Death was a transformation. It is possible this idea influenced his suicide. Empedocles died by throwing himself into the Sicilian volcano, Mount Etna.

What makes the individual to commit suicide?

She opened her eyes saw the bright sun shining through her window. The thing she couldn’t recall was why her pillows were wet. She didn’t wanted to do her daily routine. And there again she felt alone,trembled,squeezed out of soul. LOSS OF INTEREST

She didn’t wanted to appear in front of anyone, locked herself in the room. SELF ISOLATION

And then every night before going to sleep she cried all long so no one could see her struggle. SUFFERING ALONE.

She heard the knocking of door but couldn’t wake up. GIVING UP

She felt the floor shaking, as if drenching in the pool of water and couldn’t rise above. BREAKDOWN

She remained the same way every other day in that room itself.

One day out of no inspiration for life, and in the same room she hanged herself.

And there she felt all relieved with all that she had got in her heart and nobody to ask her. Whoever knew only thought she had some mental issues. But no, she needed at least one to understand her and at least to speak up to someone.

Depression is not a joke. May be its not the thing that you would understand. Only people who have gone through can understand.

Real depression is where you no longer love things that you usually do. And you forget that “no matter what, show must go on”.

Don’t let yourself fall down. Raise your head, look up to yourself and remember you can do great things as well.

And I feel speaking out will be even more easier to come out of it.

Remember “This, which you have got is too little, there’s so much more that others do have”.

 Attempt to suicide is more dangerous when you are left with life but with broken parts. You are already dead inside but again living with a failure attempt. And it becomes more difficult to fight in that situation. So feed your brain with good grass.

There are many therapists that claim to be expertise in this but only a friend or person who loves you the most can see things and understand it. Seek their help and talk to them most importantly. Let's Normalize calling for help. They will surely understand you.

Suicide is the not the solution for depression, life is the solution for depression.

You cannot end up your life by yourself. You have no right to do it. You were brought in this world by others. You were named by others. You are called with your name by others. And in no way you can take your death in your hands. 

You don't have to go and help somebody whom you don't know ,give your life for them who call you with your name at least. Your virtue is because of them. 

Note** If you know somebody who is going through this you don't have to act "I know it all" you should be more like "all ears". They don't need your sympathy but a reminder that you are there for them.

Management:

• Get help from expertise.
• Speak up to your family or friend.
• If you can't do the above, Meditate, Pranayama
• Exercise and increase your happy hormones.
• Let go off And move on.

 

Herbs in Ayurveda that act as anti depressives- Ashwagandha, Kapikacchu, Brahmi, Mandukaparni , Shankhapushpi etc. For Ayurvedic treatment you have doctors who are very much experts in it.

Yogic Asanas to be included in your daily life- Padmasana, Savasana, Suryanamaskaras, Bhujangasana, Paschimottasana.

EVENTS COME AND GO, THEY PERISH LIKE FLOWERS.

BUT EVERY EVENT AND EVERY PERSON HAVE GOT SOME HONEY.

LIKE  A BEE, JUST TAKE THE HONEY FROM EVERY MOMENT OR EVERY PERSON AND MOVE ON TO OTHER.

BE LIKE A BUSY BEE AND BE IN THE BEING.

I am not an expertise in this subject but all that I know is through my experience.  If my experience can become example for the one who has got no sister or friend to get inspired from, I will consider my purpose fulfilled.